Holiday crazy season 2016…

Had just had my first & only Colonic Hydrotherapy session, followed by Lymphatic Drainage massage…

I walked along the unfamiliar street, feeling lighter, & slightly fragile…

I entered a drugstore, & asked the pharmacist a question…

He pointed to the back of the store, where a tiny walk-in medical clinic was hidden…

You need a prescription for Mebendazole, go see the doctor & she will write a script for you…

Ok…

Long story short, the female doctor was very thorough, weighing me to ascertain dosage, & chatting with me about specifics of why & cause…

As I started to leave, I turned & said:”I love you”…(I had been saying this to random people for decades, as a thank you for their care, their work, their efforts, almost anything…)

“That is inappropriate”…The younger female doctor replied…

I stopped…Took a breath…Thought about it…Said:”I’m sorry…I did not know…Thank you, sorry”…

In the Uber that arrived soon after, I pondered her words…

It was incorrect to say I love you in a professional patient doctor situation…

It crossed a boundary…

Like the teacher student boundary, the doctor patient boundary, priest confessor boundary, lawyer client boundary, Uber driver drivee boundary…

I hold my breath a bit now & stifle the random I love yous…

Now I say thank you…

It is better…

I am saving the I love yous for special moments that do not involve paying or getting paid…

I am also going to restrain even some of the organic I love yous, in non-professional situations…

I love you is becoming/has become, a tired cliche…

Joseph’s family was big on “faith without good works is empty”…Or something like that…

Instead of saying the mindless I love yous to family, why not take the trash out, clean the cat litter box, talk to your annoying family members (instead of only the cool ones)about their dreams…

Do something action wise…

If you need to say something nice, get specific…

“you make a great cup of tea” “I like those kooky socks” “Your haircut is “…Something a little specific…

 

Update Dec.30th, 2017

Just got an email…Here is an excerpt with the subject title…This is a Bulk email…I do Not know this person…

“Confession: I love you, Sari
Karl Moore to Sari
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I love you, Sari.

I don’t say it often enough, but I do.

I care about your personal development journey, and want to help you become the very best version of yourself.

Today, I’d like to show you some love.”

The email goes on to offer me free meditation videos & more…

Essentially it is a free gift with the longer term concept that I will buy later…

The inappropriateness of the subject: Confession Sari I love you,

Caught my eye as I scanned email subject headers…

My name had been stuck there with a bulk algorithm…

I feel that saying universal I love yous in the context of meditation & yoga practices, is a lie…

What I find is that people in these classes tend to be very hostile, snobbish, unfriendly, & certainly not easygoing I love everybody types…

Which makes me feel that the universal I love you is given for other reasons…

Are you seeking approval?

Have you been mistreated?

Constant seeking of approval can be a sign of victimization…

Are you a victim?

Call the police…

Get real help…

Faithful Counseling offers expert certified help from people licensed in marriage, social work, counseling, with masters or phds combined with years of real experience…

If you are telling total strangers that you love them, you may need some help…

Help that is more than meditating or counseling from someone who is not certified…

If you have been abused in any way or harassed sexually then you need to tell law professionals…

Holding victimization inside can cause repeating of behaviours & partnering with abusive mates …

Holding victimization inside also does not stop the abuser from repeating…

Stop telling strangers that you love them…

You do not…

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(Biography chatter:from my Author Central page on Amazon-Grove Health Science is a series of 12 books now!) Hi...I'm Sari Grove...Sari sounds like Mary...Grove is the last name I took from my husband, 'cause it is a really nice name, & he was very very good looking, & I married him, & my maiden name, the name I grew up with, was "Slatt", which could be turned into all sorts of unfortunate words, which is why when I was looking for a mate, I sought someone with a cool last name...(I cannot tell you how many totally worthy men I had to ignore due to their last names being unmelodic or otherwise unsuitable...) Grove Canada is a pen name, mostly because when I needed a web address, I could not get Grove.com or even grove.ca, so I just got GroveCanada, due to a serious lack of imagination in that moment...It stuck, so I still use it...I thought this time, if I used Grove Canada as a pen name, that maybe you might look up my blog online, at GroveCanada.ca, & enjoy the freshness of getting information from the horse's mouth, up to the minute, rather than the instant obsoleteness that a book creates...Like a car depreciates as soon as you buy it-a book is old as soon as it is published...For a Virgo perfectionist, this inability to easily update, with a new chapter, with new research, causes me constant worrisome self-abnegating, consternation... I use those dot dot dot things, the etcetera symbol, at the end of my sentences, as a habit-you will always know it is me writing, you will always pause at the end of a sentence to think for a moment, you will remember that poetry is beautiful, & you will take everything I say with a giant grain of Pink Himalayan salt(since the grammatical error will irk you into that state of skepticism)! Love & Hugs, Sari ps. I became a Christian at the age of 21, which may seem like a non sequitur, & though my faith is decent my works may not really do justice to that title-but I thought I'd mention it, since my first name Sari always seems to force an assumption about my background-and though you would be right to assume that it tends to be a Jewish name, you might not be right in assuming that that is what I am going to sound like when I expound on some of my karmic principles or other ethical compasses I have developed...Not that I have done away with my past, it is just I have iced the cake with the new updated version-so if you wrong me, I may just turn the other cheek(New), instead of doing the eye for an eye thing back at you!(old)...

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